What Noise Costs You

Category: Reflection · 3 min read

There is always something playing. The radio in the car, the show in the background, the phone in your hand at the red light. Somewhere under all of it is a thought you have not finished having.

You've noticed it, probably, without stopping to look at it.

The car starts and the radio comes on before you've decided you want it. The show goes on while you make dinner, and you're not watching it. You wake up and reach for the phone before your feet are on the floor.

None of that is a moral failure. It's just what's available now, and it's very good at being available.

But I want to say something about what it might be costing, and I want to be careful, because this is the kind of thing that turns preachy fast and I don't want to do that to you.

Here's the thing I keep noticing. There is a difference between rest and distraction, and they feel almost identical while you're in them.

Distraction is very good at the first part of rest. It stops the pressure. It gets you out of the room in your head. You put something on and forty minutes go by and the thing you were carrying at 6:15 has stopped being at the front of your mind.

What it doesn't do is the second part. You don't come out of it lighter. You come out of it exactly as heavy as you went in, minus forty minutes.

Because the weight was never the thing you were trying to escape. The weight is a thing that has to be set down somewhere, in front of someone, and distraction doesn't have anywhere to put it.

So it stays. And you go to bed still carrying it, and you don't sleep well, and you get up and reach for the phone.

I think there's a reason we do this, and I don't think it's laziness.

The quiet is where the unfinished thought lives.

You know the one. It surfaces on long drives when the radio's off, or in the shower, or at two in the morning. The question about your marriage you've been not-asking. The thing about your father. The sentence about your own life that starts forming and that you shut down before it finishes, because you're not sure you want to know how it ends.

Silence gives that thought room to complete itself. Noise doesn't. And on a Tuesday when you've got four more hours of obligations left, noise is the reasonable choice.

I understand it. I'm not going to tell you that you're doing it wrong.

But I'd point at one thing.

There's a moment where Elijah is waiting for God on a mountain, and there's a great wind, and an earthquake, and a fire — and God is not in any of them. What comes after is described as a low whisper, a thin quiet sound, and that's where the voice is (1 Kings 19:11–13).

I don't think that story is telling us God can only speak softly. I think it's telling us something about what has to happen on our end before we can hear.

Everything loud had to pass first.

So here's all I'd ask, and it's small.

Drive home once this week without turning anything on.

Not as a discipline. Not to pray, or to have a breakthrough, or to produce anything at all. Just to find out what starts talking when nothing else is.

It might be nothing. It might be the grocery list.

But it might be the thing you've been outrunning since March — and you can't set down what you've never let yourself finish thinking.

If your quiet has been full of everything except quiet, The Direction Series was built for that — it makes room for the thought you keep not finishing. You can find it at directionseries.com.

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